How to Improve Yourself Everyday
Do you try to improve yourself every day? As I see it, everybody has something they want to change about themselves, which is why self-improvement is such a popular topic. This is true especially in today’s social media climate, which changes constantly and challenges us to question what we consider to be our ideal self. Is it someone who goes to the gym five times a week? Is it someone who meal-preps every Sunday? What about someone who works non-stop without getting tired? Or perhaps it is someone who never feels unsure of themselves no matter what situation they are in? While the answer to these questions requires more consideration, there is one element of self-improvement that doesn’t: pacing.
The misconception about self-improvement is that it needs to happen all at once. But as cheesy as it sounds, the truth is that it is a journey, not an end or a quick fix. A part of self-improvement is accepting that you will constantly be developing and learning. It revolves around you, so take it at a pace that will benefit you.
Sometimes change doesn’t happen when or how you want it to, and that is just part of it. The volatility of personal transformations is often unpredictable, which is why no plan is ever one-size-fits-all. And that means that you need to tailor your goals to who you are. Nonetheless, there are three steps worth implementing that will help you on whichever self-improvement journey you’re on.
Get to know yourself.
Self-improvement doesn’t necessarily mean turning upside down who you are. Instead, it’s more like adding what’s missing in you to create balance. If you go into this journey with the intention of becoming someone that even you wouldn't recognize, it may not go well for you. Everybody has their own essence—something that makes them different from others. This essence should be accepted and built upon but never destroyed. Relearn your likes and dislikes, beliefs, and questions about the world. What’s bothering you about yourself? What do you dislike the most? Are there specific things that you feel are keeping you from creating a balanced life for yourself? These are but a few questions. From there, you will get a better idea of how exactly you can improve yourself.
Accept where you are and envision where you want to go.
The next step is about accepting where you currently are in your life. Maybe you’re still in school awaiting the day you can finally prove yourself to your family and boss, or maybe you feel stuck at your current job and have no idea what to do next. Before you start doing, make peace with where you are.
Planning your next move involves accepting where you are as a starting point, whether that place is somewhere you are proud of or not. There are two advantages to accepting your situation. First, you can accurately measure the progress you will make from your starting point. Second, you figure out exactly what you are working with. If you don’t know what skills or talents or resources you do or don’t possess, moving towards your goal will be difficult.
Once you figure that out, envisioning where you want to go will be easier because you now have a more realistic plan.
Celebrating your successes—no matter how small.
Every victory is worth celebrating, no matter how small it may seem. Among its many meanings, self-improvement means practicing self-love and allowing yourself to be proud of any progress you make. If you are constantly stressing about what isn’t done, you will never see the value in what has been done. By allowing yourself to appreciate your work, you build up both your confidence and your self-esteem, which are invaluable traits. In other words, knowing your worth will help you demand the respect and benefits you deserve—but only if you start appreciating yourself.
Now, these three steps that can help you improve yourself every day seem easier said than done. If you can, put some time aside to think about them. Maybe start a journal and write down your thoughts about each one. Or maybe you can write down everything that you feel is progress. You can also bring these up in conversations with friends or family to see insights they might have.
Try something new.
If you are having a hard time finding something you are interested in, try something you have never done before. Trying new things will expand your mind and help you discover new things about yourself. A few simple examples include taking a course in a new subject, listening to a podcast, or taking up a new hobby. You might find that you hate it, but there is a possibility that you might love it and it will bring you closer to finding your purpose in life.
Don't fear failure.
Don't be scared to try something because you think you might fail. Failing is part of the process! As Thomas Edison said, “I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.” Failing will tell you what works and what does not work, and that brings you one step closer to achieving your goal.
As the phrase implies, improving yourself every day is about doing the puzzle one piece at a time. Smaller goals eventually lead to bigger and bigger goals. Couple those with repetition and voilá! Your end result won’t be the end of your journey. But once you see how far you came since you started, you’ll want to go even further.